Say This, Not That Script Pack

100+ ready-to-use phrases for parents of teenagers.

You know that split second when your teen starts spiraling… and you feel your own chest tighten—because you know this moment matters.

When emotions run high, most of us reach for the same tired lines that accidentally make it worse.
And every charged moment teaches your teen something, whether we mean it to or not.

The words you choose can either:

• build trust and emotional safety

• or trigger shutdown, defensiveness, and distance

That’s why this exists: so you’re not guessing in the hardest moments.

Inside you’ll get scripts for:

• big emotions (anger, anxiety, “I’m fine,” insecurity)

• shutdowns + communication breakdowns

• disrespect, sarcasm, and boundary pushing

• tech battles, chores, and getting out the door

• motivation, school stress, quitting, and follow-through

• repair after conflict + reconnecting

These aren’t “say it once and hope” phrases.
They’re designed to lower defensiveness, protect the relationship, and keep conversations from spiraling, especially when you’re overwhelmed.

Change your words and you can change the entire tone of your home, starting tonight.