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How to Support Them Through Mistakes

behavior & discipline

I swore I'd never get upset with my teen for making poor choices until I stopped making them myself. This morning, I skipped the gym because I stayed up too late binge-watching "Love Island." So, I guess she's off the hook for a while…

 

Are We Setting Unfair Expectations for Our Teens?

As parents, we naturally want our teens to make great choices, but are we holding them to unrealistic standards? Just like us, they are in a constant state of learning and growing. Instead of reacting with anger when they make poor choices, let’s focus on teaching them how to reflect and recover from their mistakes.

 

Turn Mistakes into Teaching Moments

Next time your teen makes a disappointing choice, take a deep breath and approach the situation as a learning opportunity. Here are some effective strategies to guide them through their mistakes:

  1. Ask Thoughtful Questions:

    • Instead of expressing frustration, ask questions like, “What did you learn from this?” or “How can you handle it differently next time?” This encourages them to think critically about their actions and understand the consequences.
  2. Encourage Open Dialogue:

    • Create an environment where your teen feels safe to share their thoughts and feelings. Make it clear that it’s okay to talk about mistakes without fear of judgment. This builds trust and strengthens your relationship.
  3. Model Self-Reflection:

    • Share your own experiences with mistakes. Talk about times when you made poor choices and what you learned from them. This not only normalizes their experiences but also shows that everyone makes mistakes, regardless of age.
  4. Focus on Problem-Solving:

    • Help them brainstorm solutions for the future. Ask questions like, “What could you do differently next time?” This encourages resilience and proactive thinking.
  5. Celebrate Growth:

    • Acknowledge their efforts to learn from their mistakes, no matter how small. Celebrating these moments reinforces positive behavior and encourages them to keep trying.

The Bottom Line

Supporting your teen through their mistakes is essential for their growth and development. Let’s focus on being guides, not just disciplinarians, as we help our teens become resilient, self-aware individuals.